Name: Jennifer (38) & Brian (37)
OCCUPATION: Grant Writer & Marketing Executive
HOMETOWN: Portland, Oregon, USA
MET: at a friend’s dinner party
TOGETHER: 12 years together, 8 years married and monogamous
FORMAL COMMITMENTS (Spiritual, Financial, or Legal): legally married, most finances shared, two kids (Tyler 10 and Rowan, 6), one dog (Coco)
WHY DID JENNIFER & BRIAN WANT COACHING?
IN THEIR WORDS:
Jennifer: “I’ve come to some realizations that make a lot of sense, but they put other things in question. I’ve always had a really strong connection with other women, but just didn’t really take bisexuality seriously until I met someone this year. I don’t think it’s a big surprise to anyone. And I know I still love Brian and want to be with him, but I feel like this is a part of me I never got to figure out. So we found Gina because we’re hoping polyamory or an open relationship might be a way for me to be with women without ending our marriage.”
Brian: “I love her and I want her happy. I’m just not sure how to make space for her to do what she needs to do and still feel like things are fair between us. I don’t want to feel like I just get left at home with the kids while she’s out meeting people. But in all honesty, I’m not that interested in dating anyone else either.”
Jennifer: "We're both most worried about what this could do to our kids, or their friends at school if anyone finds out. I mean, it's a pretty liberal school as far as gay people go, but this is something else."
Brian: "That is the biggest concern for sure. They're pretty young now, but soon they'll be asking questions. I don't know what we'd tell them or the other parents at soccer for example."
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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.