Name: Cheyenne (26) & Clay (28)
OCCUPATION: Blogger & Personal Trainer
HOME TOWN: Living together in Eugene, Oregon, USA
MET: At a March Fourth party in Portland, OR
TOGETHER: 2.5 years “Monogamish”
FORMAL COMMITMENTS (Spiritual, Financial, or Legal): Shared bank accounts and pets (kittens: Tamarind and Musky)
WHY DID CHEYENNE & CLAY WANT COACHING?
IN THEIR WORDS:
Cheyenne: “I’ve always known monogamy is unrealistic. The idea of just being with one person for the rest of my life seems… well, I haven’t seen it work for many people. But I have never met anyone I wanted to be with a long time who I could really work on things like this with. I want to figure out how to have an open relationship the right way.”
Clay: “I’m totally down with the idea of an open relationship, but once we start trying to talk through the day-to-day parts we get lost in logistics. I’m all about figuring this out but we’re a little stuck.”
Cheyenne: “We’ve tried a few things with other people together, and more recently we each met other people at Beloved. Now we don’t know what to do. The first people we sort of one-time things, these new people are more like real relationships.”
Clay: “We’ve both been having trouble with these really intense emotions that come over us. Like one day I’m fine –like really really fine with everything- and then all of a sudden I’m not and it gets pretty bad.”
Cheyenne: “We’ve always been really good communicators. I’ve never had a relationship so strong. It’s like I didn’t know it could be this good. But since Beloved there’s been a lot of tension and misunderstanding.”
Clay: “We know we want to stay together but I don’t know how we’re going to move forward.”
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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.