RECOMMENDED BOOKS ON INFIDELITY & AFFAIRS

 

STATE OF AFFAIRS - ESTHER PEREL

This is THE BOOK you need to read if you've been through an affair.  It's the most informed look at relationships and why we stray around and while it's filled with accountability for the affairing partner, it's not super shame-laiden like other books on affairs. 

Let Perel walk you through the most common concerns that show up for folks who've been betrayed, the issues that set couples up for deceit and failure, and the ways folks move through the pain of infidelity. 

If you want a sample of her work check out her podcast, Where Should We Begin where she shared actual recordings from couples therapy sessions with people who are healing from infidelity.  Order a copy here.

AFTER THE AFFAIR - JANIS SPRING

If you're looking for a step-by-step sort of guide to walk you from considering if you should stay together to reconnecting and rebuilding trust this is it.  This book follows the most traditional train of thought that works for LOTS of couples as they uncover deceit and rebuild trust.  Check it out here.

 

HEALING FROM INFIDELITY - MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS

If you're looking for a helpful guide to support you through the process of untangling all the emotions that arise when an affair is discovered, and the basic strategy for repair, look no further.  This book will help you decide what steps to take together to heal after infidelity- plan and simple. 

Plus you'll read helpful vignettes from couples struggling with the same things you're facing now. You are not alone.  Check out the book right here.

 

I THOUGHT WE'D NEVER SPEAK AGAIN - LAURA DAVIS

If you're struggling with the forgiveness part of life after an affair this may be the right book for you.  Yes, the title is dramatic, but for most folks life after an affair is a little dramatic.  This book was intended for survivors of trauma and abuse to work through when and if they want to forgive perpetrators, but the information is useful no matter who you're working to forgive.  Order a copy here.