Ugh, you guys betrayal in intimate relationships is just the worst. It so often leaves both partners in a spiral of shame, under a heap of hurt, so far from the connection they so deeply long for to comfort them.
It is simply one of the most painful experiences I see people through. It's incredibly painful- and so deeply isolating. What a terrible combination.
And because it's so isolating whenever I read or hear something really good about it I want to share it with you. So when I listened to the most recent Where Should I Begin? podcast from Esther Perel, I had to share it with you.
The episode itself focuses on someone who believes he has a sex addiction and his wife. He's been exploring his sexuality behind her back for decades and she's only recently found out and come to some clarity about it. They're both hurting, and the therapist, Esther Perel, does an incredible job helping them through this painful time.
Even if sex addiction isn't part of the puzzle for you, the experience of betrayal is relatively universal. If you've been on either side of betrayal I think a lot of the experiences shared here will resonate with you.
If you're dealing with the pain of betrayal in a relationship (whether you're the betrayer or the betrayed) find time to listen to this so you might feel a little less alone.
(Click the pink text above to listen on itunes)
And if you want to talk more about the betrayal you've been through I'm happy to help support you in working through it (whether you stay together or not).
Hi! I'm glad you're reading. Let me know if I can help you:
- open your relationship & practice polyamory with integrity
- move beyond jealousy, fear, and insecurity
- manage intense emotions that arise in conflicts
- rebuild trust after infidelity or dishonesty
- shift stuck communication & codependent relationship patterns
I lead couples retreats, host workshops, and see private clients online (and in Portland, OR).
Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.
Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.