portland sex positive therapy

What is Sex-Positive Counseling?

What is Sex Positive Therapy | Uncommon Love Poly Counseling in Portland

So many of the couples clients I work with are new to the term "sex-positive" I get asked this question a lot.  

To some people sex-positive means being a part of the BDSM community.  But I think it means more than showing up to leather events and fetish parties.  

And to some people sex-positive means enjoying talking about, and having sex.  

But being a relationship coach is about helping others- not just having space to talk about things that interest me. 

Sex-positive philosophy guides my work

The framework as a sex-positive provider means affirming sexuality, and taking a decidedly non-shaming approach to sexuality as long as it is safe, sane and consensual.  

As a consultant this means I talk about these three topics with all of my clients.  

This means if my clients want to talk about their fetish or fantasy- that's okay.

And if my clients want to talk about a kinky sexual behavior- that's okay.

If my clients participate in sexual behavior that is not average or common- that is okay.  

We can explore what those behaviors, feelings, and dreams are all about in a non-shaming way (as long as you and your partners are consenting and clear-headed).  If my clients mention behavior or terms that are new to me I can ask about them in a non-shaming, non-pathologizing way.

This kind of therapy isn't for everyone.  And it's not the same as sex therapy.  But it is a critically important way to work with people about a vital part of their lives.  

Have you asked yourself what is safe related to your sexuality?  

Do you know what it means to be sane in making those decisions?  

Have you considered clear consent in your sex and play relationships?

If you haven't you are not alone.  Most people have trouble talking about sex and negotiating play scenes.  But difficulty talking about it is a large part of the reason so many couples experience desire fatigue, or suffer unsatisfying sex.  

Learning to talk about sexuality clearly and confidently is key to having a satisfying sexual life.

If you want help getting clear about what you want and sharing it with the person you love a sex-positive provider might be a helpful step.  Schedule a free consultation to see if I can help you.

*I closed my psychotherapy and couples counseling practice in 2016 to pursue coaching and consulting.  Contact me to learn more about this powerful change in my work.

 

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationshipsjealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

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What is a Kink-Aware Sex Positive Therapist?

Sex Positive Definition

“The sex-positive movement is a social movement which promotes and embraces sexuality with few limits beyond an emphasis on safe sex and the importance ofconsent. Sex positivity is “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation.

The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that advocates these attitudes. The sex-positive movement advocates sex education and safer sex as part of its campaign.” The movement generally makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual activities, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference.”  

– Definition from Wikipedia

Kink-Aware Definition

“[Providers who] have specific knowledge of kink concepts and lifestyles, have researched and educated themselves in these areas. May have some previous experienced providing professional services to individuals with these interests.”

Definition from the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

My Work as a Sex Positive Relationship Coach

One of the best questions I get from new clients is about my listing as a sex-positive or kink-aware provider.  Not all of my clients engage in non-traditional sexual activity, but for some of my clients it is especially important to know I have expertise in working with BDSM, fetish, and other kink communities.

I also work with a lot of clients who are just beginning to get creative and explore their sexuality.  Some of them just finished reading Fifty Shades of Grey, and others have held secret fantasies for years and are just now opening up to their partner.  

Often it can be helpful to work with a professional to discuss and negotiate new sexual territory with a knowledgeable and non-judgmental professional.

Even for clients who follow more mainstream or traditional sexual and sensual practices, it can be important to know this is a specialty of mine.  These clients love working with me because I apply the same open non-judgmental approach to my work with all couples- no matter how kinky.  

Watch the video below to learn more!

I closed my psychotherapy and couples counseling practice in 2016 to pursue coaching and consulting.  Contact me to learn more about this powerful change in my work.