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Ten Example Safe Sex Agreements for Open Relationships

From the Ask Me Anything Series:

Do you recommend safer sex agreements with partners to clients?  How detailed should they be?

I am so glad you asked! I see clients come up with all kinds of arrangements about their sexual health.

I’m not going to offer any recommendations here (talk with a sex-positive medical provider to get updated STI information), but wanted to share some of the vast differences among the clients I work with.

Here are a few examples that have worked for relationships I support:

Donnella (28) & Shawn (32), married 12 years, open 2 years, Portland Oregon

“We have agreed to let each other know if we plan to have non-barrier vaginalor anal sex with partners and we tell each other after any oral sex happens. We get tested every three months.”

Allison (40) & Jason (40), cohabitating 10 years open 10 years, Madison, Wisconsin

“Allison has herpes she has to disclose to new partners and that’s often a real challenge because of the stigma and shame related to STIs. She’s lost a lot of potential partners because of it.”

“So far, Jason hasn’t tested positive for herpes so he hasn’t had to disclose, but he tells his partners about Allison anyway just to be honest.”

Shauna (38), Therese (32), & Richard (47), partnered 15 years, Minneapolis, Minnesota

“We only have sex with each other and it’s been that way for years. We’d get tested if any of us started dating someone new and would expect them to get tested too.”

Mark (41) & Holly (44), monogamish married 22 years, Chicago, Illinois

“We only have sex with other people when we’re both present and we always use condoms for vaginal sex (we don’t do anal or oral). We also take extra vitamins in the winter flu season.”

Charlotte (43) & Daniel (46), dating 18 years, open relationship 1 year, New York City

“We ask partners for test results if we think we’re going to sleep with them (before we sleep with them). If they’re not willing to show us results there’s no reason we’d want to be intimate.”

Tony (44) & Rashida (28), swinging together 3 years, Portland Oregon

“We don’t worry about it. We only swing in clean places and only hook up with people when it feels right.”

Heather (36) & Gwen (37), married 13 years, open marriage 3 years, Seattle, Washington

“Heather sleeps with cis-men and uses condoms when they have any penetrative sex. Neither of us use any barriers with other cis-women. We test annually at our gyno exam, but we’re not worried about getting anything.”

Elle (30) & Mikah (30), dating/living together 5 years, playing openly 8 years, Miami, Florida

“We host invite-only play parties at our house where we ask everyone to play with barriers. We provide gloves, condoms, and other barriers as well as clean up supplies for messy play. SO far no one has complained. When either of us has a new partner we use barriers for all sex and fluid bonding except kissing. We both take our health very seriously.”

David (32) & Ryan (36), married 10 years, open marriage 6 months, Naperville, Illinois

“We started on Prep last month and have decided barebacking is an option if we’re both present. We ask every new partner if he’s been tested but they’re on their honor to tell us. We always use condoms when we fly solo.”

Sarah (52) & Hans (56), married 32 years, monogamish 2 years, Evansville, Illinois

“Sarah makes out with other women and sleeps with them and we’re not worried about disease transmission. Hans just watches.”


Gina Senarighi Madison Sex Therapist

Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She coaches online clients all over the world and leads retreats in the U.S.

Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.

Navigating the Holidays for Open Relationships

I was so honored to be interviewed on the Hearts and Other Sex Parts Podcast last week specifically because we focused on one of the biggest topics of conversation in my practice this time of year: how to manage holidays when you have more than one partner.

For most people certain holidays carry real meaning- and Valentine’s Day is often a romantic holiday for couples (monogamous or otherwise). When you have more than one sweetie it can add pressure to plan for holidays because while love is infinite, time, money and energy are limited. And when scarcity arises often anxiety isn’t far behind.

Listen in to my conversation with podcast host Keely Helmick for a few tips on navigating the holidays with more than one partner and leave a comment on my page if you’ve got advice to share about managing multiple partnerships over holidays form your own life. I’d love to hear from you!

You Asked, I Answered: Questions About Polyamory

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I get asked a lot of great questions about my work- especially my work with polyamory and non-monogamy.  Here's a short list of the most commonly asked questions about open relationships.  

Read more of the most frequently asked questions by my clients here

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Do you believe polyamory or monogamy is healthier?

I don't think relationship health is determined by the number of partners involved- but I do believe it can be measured by the level of communication, empathy, trust, and connection experienced by partners.  

For some people open relationship structures are overwhelming.  And for others monogamy is stifling.  I don't think you always have to choose one or the other, but I want all my couples to be able to openly discuss these with kindness and ease.

How did you learn about open relationships?

I became interested in couples work when I was in graduate school studying couples counseling.  I was fortunate to study in a holistic program that emphasized non-traditional therapeutic styles.  I was also really lucky to intern at the Gottman Relationship Research Institute when I finished school and really learn about strengthening trust in relationships.  

I wrote my final research on non-monogamy in couples therapy and have only expanded my research and education since then.  I left the profession of mental health therapy in 2016 to focus on coaching this population.

Does non-monogamy really work?

Absolutely.  If you define "working" as being together a long time, I will tell you I've supported couples who are married or who have been together for 14, 17, 22, and over 40 years while practicing many forms of nonmonogamy.  

If you define "working" by being generally satisfied with your relationship, supporting one another's growth, feeling empathy and desire for your partner I will tell you I've supported couples who are married and/or who have been together for 4, 17, 22, and over 40 years while practicing many forms of nonmonogamy.

But to make non-monogamy work, you need to be willing to do some work.  That's where I can help you.

Do you work with monogamous couples?

Even for clients who choose monogamy, it can be important to know this is a specialty of mine. These clients love working with me because I apply the same open non-judgmental approach to my work with all couples.  

I love all kinds of love - monogamous love too!

What about affairs in polyamorous relationships?

Affairs happen in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.  I work with couples to rebuild trust and overcome jealousy every week in session.  I have helped hundreds of couples move forward after an affair.  (Read more about my work with infidelity here)

I can to help you build and repair trust no matter your relationship structure. Schedule a consultation to get started with me here. 

Are you poly/open/non-monogamous?

Yup.  But I won't give you a lot of information about my relationship structure beyond that because if we're going to work together I want to keep the focus on you.  


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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She can help you:

  • rediscover passion in long-term relationships
  • repair trust after infidelity or dishonesty
  • move past jealousy, insecurity or codependent patterns
  • open your relationship or practice polyamory with care
  • resolve sexual dysfunction and disconnect
  • break unhealthy communication patterns in your relationship

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).

Before you talk about opening your relationship talk about this

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Every nearly-non-monogamous couple I've worked with has missed this one critical step and I just can't go one without addressing it.  

We can't start a conversation about non-monogamy without understanding monogamy. 

I know you think you understand it.  Almost every couple I work with thinks they have a working definition of monogamy.  But so far, NONE of my couples have ever talked about specifically what monogamy means in their relationship.  

None.  Zero.  Zip. 

We walk through life in partnerships with this (pretty big) gap in clarity about what we expect from each other.  This is a problem.  

Most of us assume we mean the same thing when we say we're monogamous- but all too often we don't.  Here are some of the many areas I have seen people face extreme misunderstandings about monogamy.  

What does "monogamy" mean to you?

Check out the questions below to start examining your own working definition of monogamy.  If you haven't talked about these things in your relationship, please do before talking about opening things up.

Kissing

Plenty of folks will say kissing other people is off limits.  But many of them make exceptions for same-sex kissing (if they are straight) r opposite-sex kissing (when they are gay).  They tell me it "doesn't count."

There are also plenty of cultures where kissing is the norm.  Not just international cultures, but friend circles, families, and spaces based on tradition can be the norm.  Kissing cheeks, hands, faces, or lips... it "doesn't count" because it's not erotic.  

Which may be the case, but how do you know when kissing is and isn't erotic for someone?  When is kissing okay in your relationship?  When do you share it with others?

Touching

This is the big one where I see people get into trouble.  Some of my couples don't touch other adults- ever.  But most hug friends, or might hold hands with friends.  

Some even snuggle with people they care about and I've seen it become a problem for partners- when it hasn't been discussed.

I'm always surprised when I bring up dancing with other people.  Some folks are very sensitive about sharing intimate dancing with others.  Others love to grind on a dance floor with strangers but would never dream of slow dancing with anyone but their partner.  

If you've never talked about what monogamous touch means to you, now's a great time to start.

Emotional Intimacy

Are there special secrets you share with others?  Do you have certain closeness or fondness for people outside your romantic relationship?  What do you do when those feelings and friendships arise?  

Are there certain pieces of information you want to keep private between you and your partner?  Odds are, there's something they know about you that you'd prefer kept between you.  How can they meet your privacy expectations if you don't tell them?

Spacial Intimacy

Many of the monogamous couples I work with have unsaid expectations about spaces they share with people outside their relationship.  Do you enter a bedroom alone with a friend's spouse?  Will you travel alone with people your partner might find threatening?  

If we're not clear about what kinds of spaces or behaviors indicate intimacy with our partners it becomes very easy for them to misstep.  

Sex with other people

This seems like the most obvious topic to cover, and is usually where people begin to define non-monogamy.  But many of the people I've worked with have sex with other people and still define their relationships as monogamous. 

Some of them have shared partners and experiences.  I once had a client say, "If we're all present, then it's within the confines of our marriage bed."  

And similar to kissing (above) many of them have caveats for non-emotive sex, or sex with people of other genders.  I've had many straight couples tell me they don't view lesbian sex as threatening or "real sex" and therefore it "doesn't count."

I'm not suggesting one definition of monogamy should (or could) work for everyone here.  But I am certain clarity about your own and your partner's definitions is a helpful discussion to have before exploring non-monogamy.  


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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

  • rediscover passion in long-term relationships
  • repair trust after infidelity or dishonesty
  • move past jealousy, insecurity or codependent patterns
  • open your relationship or practice polyamory with care
  • resolve sexual dysfunction and disconnect
  • break unhealthy communication patterns in your relationship

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).

Considerations for Opening Your Relationship in Portland, Oregon

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After supporting hundreds of couples opening relationships and maintaining polyamorous relationships in our beautiful weird city, I wanted to share some of the most common considerations that might be specific to Portlandia.

This town has a lot of great resources to nurture non-traditional relationships, from tantra classes, to sex positive meet-ups, to erotic-themed poetry readings, there are a lot of great events in Portland for less-mainstream couples.  

 

3 Considerations for Opening Your Relationship in Portland

Small Town

Portland is just big enough to host a lot of great events and be home to some really incredible people (over 600,000 of us).  And a lot of people say they moved here from other cities because of Portland's weirdly small-town feel.  

Portland's in-between size has been such a huge factor for so many of the couples I support.  It shows up in three main ways:

  • The dating pool is smaller

So there are less folks to choose from in the first place- let alone those who really understand nonmonogamy and how it works.  There's also less poly, nonmonogamous, and/or swinger community to connect with than say, San Francisco or Seattle merely because Portland is much smaller.

  • The ex-pool is closer

Right, so if the dating pool is small, the ex-pool is even smaller.  It's likely you will cross paths with someone you hooked up with (or your partner did) at some point.  Plan accordingly.

  • You're going to run into people you don't expect

Many of the couples I work with are not out to coworkers, family, or other community about their nontraditional relationship.  This is just fine until you're out on a date with your new fling and someone you know from church is in the same restaurant.  

It can be really limiting for couples who are not out about their polyamorous life.

"Liberal" Values

Portland is lauded for its liberal values and in many ways our cultural embrace on keeping Portland weird does help nonmonogamous relationships flourish here.  

BUT many of the couples I support have seen ways those liberal values are espoused- not necessarily actualized.  For example, many of the people of color I work with have experienced real racism at play parties, and genderqueer clients of mine are always concerned about safety due to prior harassment at non-queer events.  

Portland is very far ahead of many parts of the country in terms of acceptance and social justice- but there is still progress to be made.

Quality Sex-Positive Spaces

We are lucky to have many sex-positive formal and informal events in Portland, it's true, but many of them have been very hard to find for my clients.  The events might be private, difficult to access, or unclear in their boundaries.  

For example, I had clients report back to me after attending a sex-positive event in Portland that no one explained the house rules to them, they were gendered, and they witnessed many non-consensual acts between adults while attending the party.  

The in-between size of Portland means less space- and I would argue, less quality space for couples seeking sex-positive community.

 

It's not impossible to nourish an open relationship in Portland, but there are important considerations that make our weird and wonderful city unique for folks embracing a non-traditional relationship format.  

Think about what you might need to overcome these in your own Portland partnership.

 

If you want support overcoming these challenges give me a call for a consultation.  I'm happy to help you nurture your relationship (monogamous or otherwise).


Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationshipsjealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).

 

 

 

Polyamory Vocab Lessons: Polyamory

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Dear readers, 

I work with so many couples who are considering open relationships and so many of you have asked for some basic facts in polyamory, nonmonogamy and open relationships.  

I decided to start breaking down some of the most commonly used terms in the wide field of nonmonogamy.

Of course, every individual and relationship is different, so it is important to get clear with people about what they mean by these terms (especially if you're considering an intimate relationship with them).  

You could ask any of the following questions:

"Lots of people use that term, what does it mean in your relationships?"

"I know that can actually mean a lot of things, wow does {term} actually play out in your life?"

These conversations will also help you get clear about what to call your own relationship.  

I'll keep adding more terms over time so check back time to time to learn more.  

This week's focus: Polyamory

As we know, non-monogamy is an umbrella term that includes lots of different kinds of relationships.  Polyamory or poly community is one of the possibilities that falls under the umbrella of nonmonogamy.

Some basic general information on polyamory:

Most basically, polyamory means many loves. But because the word love means different things to different people polyamory is different in each and every relationship.  

Polyamorous people live in all parts of the US (and the world), identify as many different genders and sexual orientations, and participate in all sorts of relationship arrangements.

Some polyamorous relationships include shared partners, community and friends making a large web of supporters and chosen family.  

Some, but not all poly people participate in BDSM and kink community.

Some, but not all poly people are gay, lesbian, or bisexual.  

Many members of poly community are straight and are legally married, but have additional lovers and/or partnerships.  Some choose to live together and parent with individual or multiple partners.

 

One of the best things about being polyamorous is the freedom to create and tailor the relationship structure(s) that best serve you and your partner.  

Polyamorous relationships also often include more understanding and agility for relationship change, growth and development over time.  

Polyamory Resources:

Openingup.net

My favorite resource for all my nonmonogamous couples.  This site covers the full range of possibilities in open relationships and the book dives into many scenarios outlining how specific couples create polyamorous networks that work for them.  

Morethantwo.com

For couples considering more romantic or emotional connections with partners, More Than Two is my go-to resource to find balance and maintain connection while incorporating other people into the relationship.  More than two focuses mostly on polyamory.

Poly in the Media

This resource tracks news and events related to all things polyamory.  If you're ever feeling alone as a poly person you can easily find information on others living a polyamorous life here.

Lovemore.com

The only nationwide magazine dedicated to polyamory, Love More also hosts conferences and poly events throughout the country.

Polyamory On Purpose

One of the better practical blogs of poly-related information for oply families, legal issues, financial stressors and more.

Poly Weekly

A podcast about polyamory and the people who choose this kind of open relationship.

If you are considering opening your relationship give me a call for a consult.  I am happy to help:


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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationshipsjealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).

Two Kinds of Jealousy

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The most common question I get (as a therapist who works with open relationships and non-monogamous marriages) is how I help people work through jealousy.  

Although jealousy takes many forms in these diverse relationships, there are two sources driving most of our conversations on the topic.

Most of the time, jealousy is based in fear.  It is an incredibly common emotion, and is important to acknowledge as a natural and healthy occurrence- when handled with integrity. However, when jealousy gets out of hand, it can be incredibly destructive to the foundation of any marriage or partnership.

All too often jealousy results in worried and distrustful behaviors (like snooping, spying, and interrogating).  It seems to impact relationships regardless of demographic- everyone experiences some bitter envy from time to time.

The first kind of jealousy worth noting is reactive.  

Reactive jealousy happens when you are experiencing an actual threat to your relationship.

Reactive jealousy is painful, but due to its specific focus, it can appear easier to problem solve (by addressing the threat openly, and lovingly).

On the other hand, suspicious jealousy can be very difficult to resolve.  Suspicious jealousy is not based in fact or evidence, no commitments have been broken and the relationship isn't at risk.  

Instead of being driven by a real threat, suspicious jealousy originates in one partner's insecurities.

Insecurity can come from any number of life experiences or current situations in a partner's life and in the course of a relationship it is only natural either partner will feel some insecurity rise from time to time.  Regardless of its cause, insecurity, it is important the couple work together to prevent damage that can be caused by this kind of jealousy.

Here are a couple simple but effective strategies you can work on when the green-eyed monster attacks your relationship.  

If you want help moving past jealousy in your relationship call me for a free consultation to see fi I can assist you.

 

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationshipsjealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).

 

Why People Open Their Relationships

One of the questions I am asked most often by friends and colleagues is why people choose open relationships.  

There are a lot of paths to choosing nonmonogamy and each is uniquely personal.

Many of my clients come to an open relationship model for different personal reasons, but here are a few:

  • We don't believe in the traditional monogamous married formula for relationships.

  • I like watching my wife have sex with another man.

  • My partner is bisexual and I want him/her/them to be able to have relationships with folks of a gender different than mine.

  • I am interested in a specific kink that my partner just doesn't like.  She wants me to be able to explore this fantasy.

  • We don't believe people are naturally monogamous- look at the 66% infidelity rate among monogamous marriages in the U.S.

  • It's exciting to flirt with other women with my husband.  We often have similar taste in women, so it made sense to date them together.

  • I don't believe it's possible for one person to meet all of another's emotional and physical needs.

  • Legal marriage isn't our definition of relationship success.

  • My partner is physically unable to participate in certain activities I really enjoy.  Because we're poly I can do those things with other partners.

  • I wanted to start a family and my girlfriend did not but we really loved each other.  Having an open relationship allowed us to create a different relationships structure and now I am also partnered with my daughter's mother.

  • I have always loved multiple people- finding polyamory meant I could talk more openly about it and be honest with partners.

  • I cheated on a lot of my previous partners and didn't want to have a dishonest relationship anymore.  Now I am up front and clear with partners.

  • My boyfriend is into a lot of hardcore BDSM play and I want him to be able to play while I build my play skills for safety.

  • We both have fluid sexual identities and want to be able to grow our commitment to each other as our sexualities grow and change.

  • I don't want the pressure of meeting all my partner's emotional and sexual needs.

  • I don't believe in valuing one relationship over all others.  

  • My husband is gay and we have a child.  We decided to stay together but have other partners because we love each other and want our family to stay in one home.

If you are thinking about opening your relationship and need help set up a free consultation to see if working with me is right for you.


Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationshipsjealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).

Myths of Non-Monogamy: Polyamory is so Gay!

One of the myths of non-monogamy I face regularly is that open relationships and polyamory is a gay thing.  That straight people are basically monogamous naturally, and gay people for whatever reason aren’t.

 “There is no societal or religious pressure, no relationship archetype or historical expectation for a gay man to be monogamously coupled. Unlike heterosexual relationships, gay relationships form simply because two people want to be together.” – Tyler Curry

One of the best parts about being a part of the LGBTQ community is that because we don’t have set models for relationships we get to be creative when we decide to build them.  LGBTQ couples build all sorts of beautiful relationships outside traditional norms, sometimes we move in quickly together, other times we decide never to cohabitate, some of us embrace this freedom to date more freely (which can be a form of non-monogamy, and some of us embrace the opportunity to create intentional open relationships.  Although this great creativity allows us to experiment more and sometimes we are more likely to create open relationships this is not a universal truth.

More specifically, the commenter on my last post seemed to believe the stereotype that all gay men have open relationships.  Often this myth is used to dispel the validity of same sex male-identified couples and has been a controversial topic in the gay marriage debate.  Gay men do opt more frequently for openness than other populations, but that cannot be stated as a norm- there are plenty of monogamous gay men.

The flip side of this myth leaves out the thousands of mostly straight and completely heterosexual couples who fall somewhere in the open relationship, swinger, and polyamorous spectrum.  Plenty of straight-seeming and hetero-identified couples date other couples, share partners, swing, or play with other partners.  These fabulous straight poly people exist throughout history and research and invest long-term in making complex loving relationships work.  They have children, own homes, pay bills, love and commit just like anyone else.  Don’t leave them out by believing a myth.

Side note: I received some of these comments on a professional site for LGBTQ Therapists.  It is especially important for LGBTQ couples to seek help from providers who really understand our partnerships instead of stereotypes.  Use this guide to help find a provider near you.


Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a polyamory consultant, sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationshipsjealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).

Why Do People Have Open Relationships?

People have open relationships for all kinds of reasons.  Just like monogamous relationships people choose this relationship model for healthy and unhealthy, informed, and unenlightened reasons. 

In my years working with non-monogamous couples, I have heard quite a range of reasons people choose open relationships.  Here are some of the reasons I commonly hear from fabulous individuals in varied polyamorous arrangements:

  • We don’t believe in the status quo.
  • There is greater security outside the confines of a two-person relationship.
  • My partner and my sex drives are out of alignment.
  • I have spent my whole life in polyamorous community and prefer to stay in the community I know and love.
  • I am bisexual and my wife is straight.  She doesn’t want me to lose connection to my queer identity.
  • Why not?
  • I enjoy the communication and honesty necessary for long lasting open relationships.
  • I believe open relationships require higher personal integrity.
  • Having multiple income streams in one household can make for greater financial abundance and sustainability.
  • We enjoy sharing play partners.
  • Polyamorous relationships require greater self development, introspection and have pushed me to grow as a person.
  • I enjoy watching my partner connect with other people.
  • I like the challenge.
  • I am not willing to sacrifice one relationship for another. 
  • Sex with one person for my whole life would be boring.
  • My partner has a fetish or kink I am not into, and I want to support her in getting her needs met.
  • Trying to meet all of my partners needs on my own would put a lot of pressure on our relationship.
  • I like more than one kind of person.
  • My life is richer with more than one partner fueling my emotional intimacy needs. 
  • I don’t want to limit my partner’s personal expression or have mine limited by her.

Open relationships only work when both parties can consent to their boundaries and be honest when they renegotiate their agreements.  Consider your own reasons for choosing a monogamous or an open relationship.

  • Which model works best for you and why?
  • How do you define the boundaries of your monogamous or open contracts?
  • How do you communicate expectations about intimacy with others with your partner?
  • How have your beliefs about monogamy and non-monogamy changed over time?
  • What beliefs do you have about other relationship models? 
  • How do you know which model is best for you?

Remember, no one is born poly or monogamous, these are relationship models we choose.  Neither option is right or wrong when made honestly and intentionally.

 

If you're thinking about opening your relationship and want help talking about it with your partner give me a call for a free consult- I'm glad to help.


Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a polyamory consultant, sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationshipsjealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).