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Why You're Not Having Sex: Make Some Repairs

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Desire fatigue (diminishing passion over time) is SUPER common in long-term relationships, but it doesn't have to be.  

I'm using this series to outline the simplest ways to overcome the most common reasons couples stop having sex. CLICK HERE to read the full series.


In this video we'll talk about one of the most common things getting in the way of your sexual connection- repair work.  All too often couples grow distant or have trouble finding the spark because something went wrong and was left unresolved in the past.  Here's what to do about it:

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  1. READ THE REST OF THE SERIES:

  2. Biology

  3. Time Scarcity

  4. Lack of Self-Care

  5. Maintenance Sex 

  6. Lack of Inspiration

  7. Assumption-Making 

  8. Initiation Hesitation 

  9. Lacking Feedback

  10. Poor Consent Practices 

  11. Sex Negativity - Don't Yuck Their Yum

  12. Routine Boredom 

  13. Necessary Repairs

  14. Desire Maintenance

  15. Alone Time


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Hi!  Thanks for reading!  

Let me know if I can help you:

  • rekindle the magic and ignite passion in long-term relationships
  • repair trust after infidelity or dishonesty
  • move beyond codependency, insecurity and reactive jealousy
  • resolve sexual dysfunction and disconnect
  • change unhealthy communication patterns
  • open your relationship and practice polyamory with care

Call me for a free consultation to rethink your relationship.

 

Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor, certified relationship coach, and retired couples therapist specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She hosts retreats, workshops, and sees clients for consultation online and in Portland, Oregon. 

Why You're Not Having Sex: Desire Maintenance

sex therapist portland sex counselor desire and passion in relationship

Desire fatigue (diminishing passion over time) is SUPER common in long-term relationships, but it doesn't have to be.  

I'm using this series to outline the simplest ways to overcome the most common reasons couples stop having sex. CLICK HERE to read the full series.


In this video we'll talk about desire maintenance- how to fuel the desire within you so you can keep it happening between you.  Watch here:

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If you want to talk more about keeping desire alive in your relationship schedule a free call with me.  I'd love to hear from you.

  1. READ THE REST OF THE SERIES:

  2. Biology

  3. Time Scarcity

  4. Lack of Self-Care

  5. Maintenance Sex - Break Free of Obligation

  6. Lack of Inspiration - Invest in Creativity, Wonder and Awe

  7. Assumption-Making - Get Curious and Explore

  8. Initiation Hesitation - Live Courageously and Circle Back

  9. Lacking Feedback - Highlights Reel

  10. Poor Consent Practices - Talk During

  11. Sex Negativity - Don't Yuck Their Yum

  12. Routine Boredom - Fantasy Sharing, Find Inspiration

  13. Necessary Repairs - Move Past Resentment with Apology and Personal Responsibility

  14. Desire Maintenance - Invest in Your Sexiness

  15. Alone Time


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Hi!  I'm glad you're reading.  Let me know if I can help you:

  • rediscover passion in long-term relationships
  • repair trust after infidelity or dishonesty
  • move beyond jealousy, insecurity or codependency
  • resolve sexual dysfunction and disconnect
  • break unhealthy communication patterns 
  • open your relationship and practice polyamory with care

Call me for a free consultation to rethink your relationship.

 

Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

ASK ME ANYTHING: He's Like a Drug

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This Week's Relationship Advice Question:

I'm in a passionate intimate relationship with a guy I use to work with. He told me from the start that he just wants to have fun and he's married. I agreed because I like him soooo much. I feel powerful and sexy when we get together. I feel like I'm making love to the sun!  He's like a drug and I'd like to break out of this but I often say to myself ...fuck it, the heart wants what it wants....Kindly advise please and thank you.


Oh sweetheart, drugs are bad.  Not all drugs, not all the time, but there are a couple easy ways to tell when a drug isn't working for you:

  • You can't stop thinking about the drug, you're distracted and not fully present in other parts of your life
  • You're not paying attention to the warning labels written on the bottle/case/whatever.  You take them as often as you can get them.
  • You feel moody or out of control.  
  • The drug interrupts your other healthy functions (sleep, friendships, exercise, sleep) so you're not well.
  • You can't seem to stop yourself from taking it.  

I know the drug might feel good, but you need to keep focused on those warning labels to keep your use in check.  In this case, your drug (Mr. Sunshine) is telling you his energy limits and boundaries, and it sounds like you might be caught up in some fantasies about those changing, or you're ignoring them.  

Some people can recover from addiction with focus and limitation.  I'd love for you to be one of those folks so you could keep feeling all that sexy powerful energy you're getting.  Is there a way for you to create better boundaries for yourself?  

Some people have to quit completely to recover.  I imagine that would be very hard for you and it might not really be necessary.  

What I know for sure is most people who successfully "quit" have a community of supporters around them helping them stay clear and accountable.  Who can you call for support?  Do your friends or other lovers know what's going on?  What do they say?  

Ask yourself what meaningful support might look like for you here and find a compassionate well-boundaried friend who can help you out.  If not, hire a coach or therapist who can help.

Not all drugs are bad- but most can be dangerous.  Be careful with your heart dear one.


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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

  • rediscover passion in long-term relationships
  • repair trust after infidelity or dishonesty
  • move past jealousy, insecurity or codependent patterns
  • open your relationship or practice polyamory with care
  • resolve sexual dysfunction and disconnect
  • break unhealthy communication patterns in your relationship

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).