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Five Questions to Prepare for a Couples Session

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After we meet for a free consultation call we might decide to work together.  But before we meet in person for a couples session ask yourself these five questions to get clarity for our work:

What are the strengths of your partnership?  

What brought you together?  What keeps you together?  Knowing the reasons why you chose one another and the strengths you bring to one another helps me draw upon these as we help you move forward.  

How committed to staying in this relationship are you right now?  

I often ask new couples to rate their commitment on a 1-10 scale when we first meet.  It's helpful to know how close you are to ending the relationship.  I've worked with couples and partners all over this scale.  

That said, please know that most couples are working with me to change patterns they created over the course of years.  I wish shifting those could happen more quickly, but most couples need to commit to a couple months of work to really see sustainable change through.

Where are you most stuck in this relationship?

What is your biggest area of conflict?  Every couple has conflict, disconnect, or tension and usually that's why they come to see me.  Take a minute to make a couple notes about your particular issue before you come in to help direct our session.

How have you already tried to resolve this issue?  I'm sure you've tried something (or many things) before coming to me.  This can be helpful information as we create a plan for change for the two of you.

How do you personally contribute to the problem you are facing in this relationship?

Here's the tough one.  Many people come in ready to blame their partner for all the problems they're facing.  And while your partner certainly may be hard to deal with right now, we need to look at how each of you contribute to the problems you're facing if we're really going to change things.  

So ask yourself how you might help create to the conflict between you.

If we're wildly successful in our work together, what will be different in your relationship one year from now?

I ask every couple this question when we start working together, so this is your head start.  I want to know how you envision things changing or being different when we shift in a more positive direction.  The more specific your description the better for our work.


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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

  • rediscover passion in long-term relationships
  • repair trust after infidelity or dishonesty
  • move past jealousy, insecurity or codependent patterns
  • open your relationship or practice polyamory with care
  • resolve sexual dysfunction and disconnect
  • break unhealthy communication patterns in your relationship

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).

How to Prepare for an Online Session

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There's not a lot you have to do to prepare for our first session together, but taking a couple minutes to get clear and set up will make things run much more smoothly.  

Before setting up an online session schedule a free call with me to see if I'm a good fit for the couples support you're looking for.

Use the checklist below to get ready for our first online meeting:

Mental Preparation 

The most important part of our work together is your mindset.  Consider the following:

  • What are you hoping to get out of this session?  Are there time-sensitive areas you'd like to focus on?
  • What are you willing to try?  What have you already tried?  
  • Where do you feel most stuck?
  • Where do you feel most resistant to change?  How are you standing in your own way?

Physical Preparation

It might sound simple but having a solid baseline of self-care will greatly improve the efficacy of our work.  Here are a couple things to do before we meet:

  • Get some rest
  • Take your vitamins
  • Eat a meal
  • Stretch your body
  • Drink some water

Space Preparation

Finally, one of the most challenging parts of meeting online is the space limitations clients can feel.  Often folks are distracted in their own homes.  Use the checklist below to prep your space:

  • Find a space without distractions (cleaning or organizing your space, pets or children)
  • Turn off your phone ringer or other distracting technology (as you might in an in-person session)
  • Find somewhere you can sit comfortably for the time we're meeting
  • Make sure your space has reliable internet or cell reception coverage so we can stay in contact
  • Try a test call on google hangouts before we meet so you can be sure you'll be able to talk with me.

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sex educator and relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, LGBTQ issues and infidelity.  

She can help you:

  • rediscover passion in long-term relationships
  • repair trust after infidelity or dishonesty
  • move past jealousy, insecurity or codependent patterns
  • open your relationship or practice polyamory with care
  • resolve sexual dysfunction and disconnect
  • break unhealthy communication patterns in your relationship

Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.

Click here to download her free guides to strengthen your relationship (monogamous or not).