Y'all, I've been talking about jealousy as dragon taming for a loooong time, and then today was talking with a colleague who told me Tara Brach has a similar approach.
As I've said, jealousy often shows up like a dragon- fierce, rageful, vengeful, spitting fire, and leaving destruction. Most folklore will tell us this. But if we look to most of these stories, the dragon is actually tending and protecting something precious.
When we shift our focus to that gold we're protecting the whole dynamic begins to change. Or so it has been in my work with jealousy (both personally and professionally).
Tara Brach is a well-known author, meditation leader, and teacher. She takes a different lens but comes to many of the same conclusions. If you're struggling with jealousy (or other overwhelming reactive emotions) give this video a watch.
Give the video your full presence and follow the meditation she leads. Notice how applying kindness - yes, kindness- the more we can shift our experience, and often get at what we really want.
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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.