What is consent?
Consent is a voluntary, sober, imaginative, enthusiastic, creative, wanted, informed, mutual, honest, and verbal agreement.
Critical elements of consent:
· Consent is an active agreement- and can be revoked or amended at any time.
· Consent cannot be coerced.
· Consent is a process, which must be asked for every step of the way; if you want to move to the next level of sexual intimacy, just ask.
· Consent is never implied and cannot be assumed, even in the context of a relationship. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you have permission to have sex with your partner.
· The absence of a "no" doesn't mean a partner consents.
· Both people should be involved in the decision to have sex
· Consent is an important part of healthy sexuality
Let’s look at consent for the two of you…
Complete the following phrases:
When I want you to stop I will say…
When I like what you’re doing I will say…
When I want to check in with you I will say…
When you want me to stop, I want to hear…
When you like what I am doing, I want to hear…
When you want to check in, I want to hear…
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