GGG is a term coined by sex-educator and author, Dan Savage. Being good, giving, and game, is important to being sexually compatible with a partner.
Think 'good in bed,' 'giving of equal time and equal pleasure,' and 'game for anything—within reason. The same goes for having a conversation about sexual intimacy.
Being GGG requires a few specific skills:
GGG means suspending judgment so your partner can be honest without worrying about shame.
GGG means having a little humility and willingness to learn about new possibilities- even things you've never tried or consider.
GGG also means being clear in your own boundaries and respecting your partner's boundaries.
Before you can get there you really need to do a little self-reflection. Check in with yourself using the following questions to be sure you are ready to engage as a GGG partner in this conversation.
How can you make meeting the sexual needs of your partner a high priority? How and when do you put their sexual needs before your own?
How comfortable are you saying no to partner’s requests? What can help you become comfortable saying no?
How comfortable are you hearing that your partner needs you to change what you’re doing in the middle of a sex act? What can you do to become more comfortable?
Where can you get reliable information about sex if your partner brings up something you're not familiar with?
How can you keep your discomfort in check if your partner is being vulnerable asking for something new?
If you're having trouble figuring out how to be more open to your partner's sexual interests give me a call for a free consult. I've walked hundreds of couples through sexual mismatch and miscommunication and I'd love to help you too.
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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.