polyamory therapy | open relationship therapist | open marriage | portland polyamory counselor

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sex positive therapist portland poly therapist | open relationship | open marriage therapist

ONLINE VS. IN-PERSON SESSIONS

I have an office in NE Portland, OR but I have clients all over the world.  If you are not able to meet with me in the office please schedule an online session (these are video chats).  

INDIVIDUAL CLIENTS, OR "SOLO SESSIONS"

If you want to rethink relationships in your life, try out solo-polyamory, or change old relationship patterns for good I'm here to help!

COUPLES, OR "DUOS" 

I generally work with couples in three arenas:

  1. Repair work- there may have been some trust damage, some distance created, or some major betrayal.  Let me help you with repair work to rebuild you from the foundation up.
  2. Opening Relationships- About 50% of my clients come from historically monogamous (or monogamish) relationships and want to create a sustainable framework for non-monogamy.  I love this work!
  3. Maintenance work- I use a strengths-based approach and view couples work as proactive. These pairs come in less frequently for general relationship maintenance like a tune-up!

THREE-PERSON RELATIONSHIPS, OR "TRIOS"

It can be hard to find professionals who really understand the unique needs of three-person relationships.  I'm here for you!

LARGER GROUPS IN RELATIONSHIP

If there are more than three people in your relationship group, chain, or polycule, please email me at info@uncommonlovepdx.com and we can discuss your specifics.  

I reserve a small number of spaces for low-income clients at a reduced rate.  Call me for a consultation to discuss payment if you need.


WHAT I DO

  • Bring a decade of experience helping folks build and rebuild trust to your service
  • Help you listen and communicate effectively to get out of repetitive arguments
  • Use a sex-positive framework and vast knowledge of healthy sexuality to support your relationship
  • Identify ways to manage really intense emotions
  • Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow in a positive direction
  • Develop an individualized plan to change the relationship patterns that brought you here
  • Keep momentum and hope alive - even if it's hard for you to feel hopeful
  • Have enough knowledge and experience working with (and being in) non-monogamous relationships you won't have to educate me in our sessions
  • Understand the unique dynamics and issues that arise for LGBTQ couples (based both in lived and professional experience)
  • Understand the unique dynamics and issues that arise for long-term non-monogamous couples and triads 

WHAT I DON'T DO

  • Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action (I've been described as "direct and not-coddling")
  • Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already too much of that in the world)
  • Assume your experience is the same as anyone else's
  • Believe either monogamy or non-monogamy is healthier, natural or inherently better than the other
  • Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use) 
  • Support couples who are actively violent with one another- your safety needs to come first, then our work together can begin