polyamory therapy | open relationship therapist | open marriage | portland polyamory counselor

Use the tool below to schedule a free consultation.  This is the best way for you and I do determine if we're a good fit to work together.

sex positive therapist portland poly therapist | open relationship | open marriage therapist

If you're ready to dive in and don't want to wait use the buttons below to schedule your initial session (credit card required).

Initial Solo Session

Join me 1:1 to dive into your past relationship struggles, ongoing triumphs, and future success stories.  

We'll draw from the strengths you have in other areas to build stronger relationships.  Let's change the way you do love together.

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Initial Couples Session

You two are pretty dang great together, but it's time for a tune-up.  

Come in for a quick consultation and walk away with a game plan to change the patterns you've outgrown and move in the direction of your shared dreams.

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Initial Trio Session

It's not easy to find professional support for Triad, V, Threesome, or other three-person relationships.  

Here the three of you can come together to work through concerns with respect to the unique needs of three-person partnership.

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If there are more than three people in your relationship group or polycule, please email me at info@uncommonlovepdx.com and we can discuss your specifics.  

I reserve a small number of spaces for low-income clients at a reduced rate.  Call me for a consultation to discuss payment if you need.


  • Bring a decade of experience helping folks build and rebuild trust to your service
  • Help you listen and communicate effectively to get out of repetitive arguments
  • Use a sex-positive framework and vast knowledge of healthy sexuality to support your relationship
  • Identify ways to manage really intense emotions
  • Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow in a positive direction
  • Develop an individualized plan to change the relationship patterns that brought you here
  • Keep momentum and hope alive - even if it's hard for you to feel hopeful
  • Have enough knowledge and experience working with (and being in) non-monogamous relationships you won't have to educate me in our sessions
  • Understand the unique dynamics and issues that arise for LGBTQ couples (based both in lived and professional experience)
  • Understand the unique dynamics and issues that arise for long-term non-monogamous couples and triads 


  • Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action (I've been described as "direct and not-coddling")
  • Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already too much of that in the world)
  • Assume your experience is the same as anyone else's
  • Believe either monogamy or non-monogamy is healthier, natural or inherently better than the other
  • Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use) 
  • Support couples who are actively violent with one another- your safety needs to come first, then our work together can begin