How to Establish Consent (Even When You've Been Together a LONG Time)

 CONSENT IN RELATIONSHIPS | HOW TO GET CONSENT

What is consent?

Consent is a voluntary, sober, imaginative, enthusiastic, creative, wanted, informed, mutual, honest, and verbal agreement.

Critical elements of consent:

·      Consent is an active agreement- and can be revoked or amended at any time.

·      Consent cannot be coerced.

·      Consent is a process, which must be asked for every step of the way; if you want to move to the next level of sexual intimacy, just ask.

·      Consent is never implied and cannot be assumed, even in the context of a relationship. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you have permission to have sex with your partner.

·      The absence of a "no" doesn't mean a partner consents.

·      Both people should be involved in the decision to have sex

·      Consent is an important part of healthy sexuality

 

Let’s look at consent for the two of you…

Complete the following phrases:

When I want you to stop I will say…

 

 

When I like what you’re doing I will say…

 

 

When I want to check in with you I will say…

 

 

When you want me to stop, I want to hear…

 

 

When you like what I am doing, I want to hear…

 

 

When you want to check in, I want to hear…

 


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