online couples counseling | online couples therapy | virtual couples counselor

There are lots of benefits to meeting online

  • you get to stay cozy in your own home while we meet

  • if you travel for work we can still meet

  • we can continue work even if you're taking vacation or traveling for work

  • meeting online simplifies childcare issues

  • stay home in inclement weather and easily avoid the traffic 

  • if you don't resonate with the providers who work near you

  • maybe you need specialized expertise in non-monogamy, jealousy, and infidelity and there's no one near you who fits

Whatever your reason, I'm happy to support you with online sessions. 

I've seen many couples through incredible transformations online. 

Call me to see how I can support you online.

 

I'VE HAD LONG-DISTANCE CLIENTS IN THE FOLLOWING STATES:

Alabama | Alaska | Arkansas | California

Colorado | Florida | Georgia | Idaho

Illinois | Indiana | Minnesota | Nebraska

New Jersey | New Mexico | New York

North Dakota | Ohio | Tennessee | Texas | Utah

Washington | West Virginia | Wisconsin

MANY OF MY CLIENTS LIVE OUTSIDE THE UNITED STATES:

Australia | Belize | Brazil | Canada | Columbia

Costa Rica | Denmark | England | France

Germany | Indonesia | Ireland | Jamaica | Japan

Korea | Malaysia | Mexico  | New Zealand

Samoa | South Africa | Thailand | Venezuela

Vietnam

 

Set up a free call to learn more about online couples support

 
 
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WHAT I DON'T DO

  • Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action (I've been described as "direct and not-coddling")
  • Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already too much of that in the world)
  • Assume your experience is the same as my own
  • Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use) 
  • Support couples who are actively violent with one another- your safety needs to come first, then our work together can begin

WHAT I DO

  • Understand the unique dynamics and issues that arise for non-traditional couples (based both in lived and professional experience)
  • Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow in a positive direction
  • Develop an individualized plan to change the way you do relationships
  • Follow a sex-positive kink-knowledgeable framework and draw from extensive experience as a sex educator
  • Help you listen, build trust and communicate effectively with yourself and those you love
  • Keep momentum and hope alive - even when it's hard for you to feel hopeful

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How does online couples support work?

Once we've met for a free consultation and decided we're a good fit to work together, you'll get a link from me to schedule your appointments according to your schedule and time zone.  You'll also receive a link to my online forms and coaching contract. 

You'll pay for sessions up front and we'll both log in to VSee for our calls so we can see and hear each other.  This program protects your privacy and allows better connection than most others for our meetings. You can watch tutorials about this program here to prepare for our session if you are new to online video meetings.

It's really simple.     

 

What's different about online couples work?

There are very few small differences. I require payment upfront for online work and expect clients to agree to a three-month-commitment because it can be difficult to follow through for online clients.

Sometimes clients feel too comfortable in their own homes to focus or dive deep in the work. I recommend you make the most of your time by carving out full focus for our shared time.

All of that said, I've been delightfully surprised that I experience some of my most powerful couples sessions online.

 

What if we have a bad connection?

I've now hosted hundreds of online sessions and have experienced very few interruptions with clients who test their systems before our call.  

This program protects your privacy and allows better connection than most others for our meetings. You can watch tutorials about this program here to prepare for our session if you are new to online video meetings.

 

How can I set myself up for success in online sessions?

Please fill out your new client forms at least 48 hours before our initial session. Be sure you fill out one form for each member of your party.  I also require payment before we begin online work.

Set aside time to meet me in a distraction-free environment.  Please note: I will not meet with you while driving for your safety. 

Be sure you convert the time change correctly when scheduling. I use this tool to convert time zones easily when planning with clients outside the Pacific Standard Timezone (PST).

Download VSee for our video calls. This program protects your privacy and allows better connection than most others for our meetings. You can watch tutorials about this program here to prepare for our session if you are new to online video meetings.

I highly recommend bringing a notebook or journal to session to collect your thoughts. I welcome the tools that best support your learning style.  

 

 How confidential is online couples work?

I use the VSee program because medical professionals use it to guard client confidentiality. 

That said, while I'll do everything in my power to protect your privacy and respect your confidentiality but there is no completely secure form of online communication. Anything can be hacked and any program has tech staff who are able to access your information. That's part of the trade off for the ease of online communication. 

Please let me know if you have questions about the limits of confidentiality in our work.

 

I'm happy to answer any questions you have about online couples support in a free call.