THE PROCESS

In ten years supporting non-traditional relationships I've developed a clear process to support your relationship's health while respecting your individuality and unique relationship needs.  

I've seen incredible success in this process with couples who are motivated to stay together while expanding their connection, trust, and intimacy.

 If you're not sure which category you fit in, give me a call, I'm happy to talk with you to see if this work is a fit for you.


WHO I SUPPORT

Generally, three types of couples choose to work with me.  See where you fit below:

COUPLES IN CRISIS

These folks who aren't sure if they'll make it through the difficult time they're facing.  Maybe trust has been broken, maybe you're reaching the end of your patience, maybe the way you've done conflict has pushed you to the brink.  I can help you make it to the other side.

I meet weekly with couples in crisis until we determine you are willing to commit to staying together for at least 90 days.  For best results, these couples see me for two 90-day periods.

OPENING UP

Lots of people reach out to me because they want support opening their relationship, discussing potential non-monogamy, or practicing polyamory for the first (or nearly first) time.  Generally these folks want to make a change without losing (or hurting) each other in the process.  I've supported hundreds of couples discern if and when nonmonogamy is an option and can gladly support you.

I meet weekly with folks in this category for our two initial sessions, then we typically switch to meeting every other week.  This gives you time to integrate, reflect, and discuss with your individual supporters or other partners between our visits.  Most of these couples meet with me for one 90-day period for this focused work and then return after a short break.

Some of the folks in this category decide to forgo session work to join my Rethinking Relationships Retreat and workshops. The retreats have shown great success for many folks looking to create a supportive non-monogamous community as well as do the personal and relationship work.

PROACTIVE RELATIONSHIP WELLNESS

Plenty of people contact me because they want to create the healthiest relationship possible, and they want to use my experience to help them.  They care for each other deeply, and want to ensure their love, and communication stays strong long-term.  

I meet weekly with folks in this category for our two initial sessions, then we typically switch to meeting every other week.  This gives you time to integrate, reflect, and discuss with your individual supporters or other partners between our visits.  

Some of the folks in this category decide to forgo session work to join my coaching circle which meets monthly.  We meet less frequently but follow the same themes.  This coaching circle has shown great success for many folks looking to change past relationship patterns and connect with others who think outside the box.


YOUR COMMITMENT

Couples who commit to a 90-day process have the greatest success in this work.  Sure, we can create instant change much quicker, but I work with folks who are more interested in lasting sustainable change- not just quick fixes.  


WHAT WE DO

In 90 days together we will focus on specific goals and problem areas I've seen arise in hundreds of couples.  I follow these themes because both my professional experience and the scientific research on successful couples tells us these are the areas that matter in long-lasting relationships.

Together we will:

  • assess your relationship strengths
  • review your relationship history and cultivate deeper connection
  • unpack the baggage you've brought with you from the past
  • create a clear understanding of the kind of monogamy or nonmonogamy that can work for you
  • revitalize intimacy and passion through a series of specific steps
  • fortify the trust between you- and clean up any trust issues
  • strengthen your conflict and repair skills to move forward with confidence
  • develop independent coping strategies and better support strategies between you for difficult times
  • create a clear vision of your shared future and action steps you can take to get there together