I've been a sex-positive, gender-affirming, LGBTQ professional consultant and relationship coach for eight years in the Pacific Northwest.
I love love, in all its forms
I've helped thousands of couples explore sexuality with connection and courage, and build sustainable trusting partnerships. My clients learn communication skills to open their relationships, practice ethical non-monogamy, and handle conflict with compassion.
Currently, I'm working mainly with couples new to non-monogamy or open relationships. I love helping people create trust and negotiate mutually-agreeable visions of a less traditional relationship structure.
Let's talk about sex
As a trained sex-educator I love helping people overcome shame and communication blocks around sexuality. I've helped hundreds of couples through sexual disconnection and mismatch. I also provide newly kinky couples and long-time BDSM practitioners with sex-positive support.
All relationships are welcome
Not all my clients are queer, kinky, or nonmonogamous, but even more traditional couples appreciate my breadth of knowledge, open-mindedness, and warm demeanor.
If you’re interested in taking this work further contact me for a free consultation.
Schedule a free consultation to see if working with me can help you
TOOLS FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Long before I became a therapist I trained as a relationship coach (at Invite Change Academy) and a Compassionate Communication facilitator with Holly Eckert. I learned tools there to help couples change unhealthy communication patterns and create inspiring visions for their futures and I use them as a foundation for my work to this day.
I trained as a sex educator at the Kinsey Institute where I taught thousands of college students about human sexuality. I received my first masters degree in education in 2004 from Indiana University.
In 2010 I received my masters in counseling after training with an eclectic multi-disciplinary approach at the Leadership Institute of Seattle. Most of my masters research and clinical practice focused on non-monogamy, polyamory and LGBTQ relationships. (Just to be clear, I am no longer providing mental health counseling services. I no longer assess or treat for mental health because I believe my clients are healthy. If you'd like to talk more about what that means for our work together let's talk!)
Soon after graduate school I interned at the Relationship Research Institute and studied the Gottman Method of couples work. This helped me learn essential tools to help couples repair from conflict and build trust long-term.
In 2012 I trained with Brene Brown to better understand shame, vulnerability, and authenticity in human relationships. I love talking about this training- please do ask me for more information!
Most recently, I’ve started my formal Sex Counselor certification. This training will continue my commitment to sexuality education- and incorporate my training in counseling with a clear focus for client work.
I've also trained professionally in herbalism, astrology, tarot, Trauma Release Exercise, Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping), mediation, the Work, and Compassionate Listening. Ask me about any of these in a consultation- I love using my eclectic professional training to support you.
Many of my clients are adults who are attracted to my approach, style, and unique expertise in nontraditional relationships as well as the warm and friendly nature of our working relationship.
CHOOSING THE RIGHT SUPPORT
Finding the right provider is especially important for LGBTQ couples, non-monogamous couples, and sex-positive community members. All too often I work with clients after they have had negative experiences with well-intentioned professionals who just didn't understand their unique needs.
Check out these recommended resources to help you find the right professional provider in Portland, Oregon.
NOT AN AVERAGE COACH
Not only do I have professional training in coaching, but I earned a masters degree in education and in counseling. Though I do not treat and assess mental health disorders anymore, I do use my background as a foundation for our work together. This foundation creates a solid base for your learning and growth in coaching unlike any other.
CREDENTIALED COACHING MAKES A DIFFERENCE
In addition to my counseling training, I'm a credentialed coach and a member of the International Coach Federation. This means there's a code of ethics guarding the work we do- and your privacy.
If you’ve tried therapy and stuck to it… but you're ready to apply the skills learned coaching might be right for you. Counseling is important reflective healing work, but my clients come to me hoping to take action for change. That's where coaching comes in.
Counseling is important reflective healing work, but most of my clients come to me hoping to take action for change. That's where coaching comes in.
Counseling (the "assessment and treatment of mental health disorders") is about asking why something is happening. Coaching doesn't assess or treat these disorders- my clients are healthy. Instead we ask what you want to do differently. How do you want to change?
I'm also a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. As a member I agree to continuing my education in psychology and human relations and to uphold their ethics code in my work.
What I've Learned in School:
BSE in Social Studies Education, 2002 (because I was going to be a History teacher...)
BA in Women's Studies, 2002 (because when everyone questions feminism it helps to have fancy books to point at...)
BS in Geography, 2002 (because I really, really like maps)
MS in Higher Education, 2004 (because I used to teach college students to be leaders)
MA in Counseling Psychology, 2010 (because I wanted to teach people to love themselves and others better)
My Certifications & Trainings:
Kinsey Institute Sex Educator Certification, 2004 (where I started talking to people about passion, shame, and resilience)
Nonviolent Communication Intern, 2005-2008 (where I learned about ask for what you want and listen to other people)
Family and Neighborhood Mediation Intern, 2005-2009 (where I learned about repairing relationships after fighting)
National Coalition Building Institute, 2007 (where I learned what to do with internalized oppression)
Myers Briggs Facilitator Certification, 2007 (I got to learn about career counseling and personality testing- great stuff!)
Compassionate Listening Project, 2008 (where I really focused on the importance of being heard in order to heal)
Invite Change - Transformative Coach Certification, 2006-2008 (where I learned about transformative life coaching)
People's Institute Northwest, 2007, 2008, 2009 (where I really practiced listening and reflecting on privilege)
Trauma Stewardship Institute, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011 (where I learned to prioritize of self care and balance)
LGBTQ Therapist Certification, 2010 (where I got real official about serving a fabulous community)
Relationship Research Institute Intern, 2010 (where I learned all about fighting and making up and building trust)
Positive Psychology Certification, 2013 (where I learned the science of happiness and tools to build happy lives)
Daring Way Facilitator Certification, 2014 (where I learned all about resiliency, courage, shame, and belonging)
Desire Map Licensing Program, 2014 (where I got clear about desire and goals)
What I'm Learning Now:
TRE Training to help clients heal trauma stored in their bodies
Yoga Therapy Training to help clients reconnect with their bodies